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Retro-femme, Oscar Recap,and Activism at Home

February 26th, 2007

Retro-femme Top

This top started out a scarf. The yarn is Cloud 9 from Cascade, a luscious mix of angora and merino. It’s fluffy, and fuzzy, and really, really, really did not want to be a scarf. I used exactly the 5 balls I was sent for this top, and am quite pleased that it not only fits the target size, it’s also pretty flattering.

The bottom portion is done in a stitch I cobbled together from extended single crochet stitches and chains. I forget where I read about the wonder that is the extended single crochet… someone on one of the blogs I read was raving about it a few months ago. This top was my first time to experiment with the stitch. I found it created a really drapey, really delicate fabric, especially when compared with more dense crochet stitches.

The waistband is done in a seed stitch, and the top portion finished off in another variation on extended single crochet. And it’s crocheted in one piece from the neck down.

Originally, this one was meant to be a cropped cardigan, but then I didn’t run out of yarn very quickly, and it decided to be this keyhole-neckline feminine top. So. This is how design works with me, sometimes. I’m always happier if I let the yarn be what it wants.

Did you watch the Oscars last night? We did, despite seeing only 3 of the movies nominated in any category all night long. (For those keeping track, that would be “Little Miss Sunshine”, “The Queen”, and “Marie Antoinette”.)

Having Tivo was a very good thing, as we not only started watching late, the sound was doing a weird thing and I couldn’t always understand what the voiceover was saying while people walked to the stage to get their award. I felt very old, saying, “Why don’t they turn that music down! I can’t hear!” over and over again.

It was also really handy for rewinding for that Melissa/Tammy kiss, and other cool moments. Now, I haven’t spent a lot of time online yet to read recaps, but as of last night, I hadn’t seen anyone complaining or kvetching about the blatant display of lesbian affection. That makes me really happy.

I’m not only thrilled that Melissa Etheridge won an Academy Award, I’m also thrilled that she, like 99% of the other winners, thanked her wife. I love that. I’m a firm believer that equality will come when we stop being seen as so different from heterosexual relationships. I also believe that being present in the world makes the biggest difference.

Not that I haven’t marched in parades (Edmonton Pride, 2002), petitioned, phoned, (Gay Marriage fight, 2004), been interviewed on national TV (Global, 2005), and generally been a pretty active political figure, but I do believe that just living my daily life will, in the long run, do more to change people’s minds from fear to acceptence.

It’s been an odd thing, with the store. Sandra and I are never the kind of people to hide who we are, but at the same time, realizing that a large portion of our customer base may think they’ve never met a gay person at all… it’s a tough balance. Over the past year (year!), we’ve largely treated the store as we would any other job. Working together is not a romantic date, although we do have fun about 95% of the time. And yet, I don’t think anyone who wants to know doesn’t know we are together.

It’s interesting, as we watched Ellen’s interview on Barbara Walters after the Oscars, how much the world as we know it has changed even in the past 10 years that I’ve been out. I came out about a year after Ellen, and I watched her career (and her love life) completely tank overnight. Today, I don’t think that would happen. Yesterday, we had an out woman hosting the Oscars, another one performing and winning for best original song, and both shown with their spouses, just like everyone else. No fanfare, no controversy, no uproar.

Well, this has been plenty long of an entry, and I have to get finishing some crochet projects. I still have 6 left; 2 of which Alana is working on, 1 that just needs some finishing, 1 that’s half done, as of last night, and 2 more to go. I have today until 4pm, and I have tomorrow, all day and night. Totally doable.

And oh yeah, Melissa? I’ll be seeing you in 3 weeks and 6 days. Not that I’m counting!

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10 Responses to “Retro-femme, Oscar Recap, and Activism at Home”

  1. Ruth Says:

    What an appropriate anti-spam word for a knitting blog – yossk! I love the top – crochet was the skill I first learned, but eventually abandoned it for the look and drape of knitting – perhaps I should go back and explore what’s new!

    And I agree – it is wonderful to see such progress made towards the day when gay marriages are as prosaic and ordinary as any other.

  2. Michelle Says:

    Everything is “totally doable” for you as you always put your mind to it and it appears. That’s because you are a miracle unto it’s own and you should be totally proud of what you continue to accomplish on an hourly basis!! 🙂

  3. megan Says:

    I just got all choked up reading your post. My one-year-legal anniversary with my wife is on Saturday, and I love how commonplace our marriage is to most of the people we interact with on a daily basis too. Slowly and surely, things are changing.

  4. Dana Says:

    That top is so beautiful– my favourite one so far (and that says a lot- everything has been beautiful to date!)

    We watched a bit of the Oscars, and I too was so pleased when Melissa won and thanked her wife. I’ve never understood the ‘horror’ of same sex relationships and marriage, so I’m so happy to see things progressing to a point where there’s no knee-jerk reaction anymore. Love is love– plain as that.

  5. Kristine B Says:

    Having been recently married, my husband and I have always been gay rights activists (we’ve been together almost 8 years!), most especially for marriage and equality in every day human rights, I am thrilled to see the gay and lesbian communities get their due. However, I have to say that marriage is anything but common-pace and although I know what you mean Megan, never get complacent or common in your marriage and it will always be over the moon wonderful no matter what any of the closed minded fearful people think. Love on sisters and brothers.

  6. Terra Says:

    This is my absolute favourite of all the designs you’ve shown pics of so far.
    I’m also glad to be living in a time where our redneck culture quickly becoming the anti-norm, I guess I always wondered if it was hard for you and Sandra running the store and all, but the more I know you both, the more open you’ve become to me, and for that I am grateful. I often have wondered how people can see same sex marriage with two people who love each other as a bad thing. Rock on!

  7. Emily S. Says:

    Lovely top.

    Hey, you should really see The Departed. It’s pretty violent, but it’s still an amazing film, and I was pulling for it to win. I’m so glad Martin Scorcese won Best Director and it won Best Picture.

  8. Rachael Says:

    Loved the Oscars, and LOVE LOVE LOVE that top. I mean, really. WOW.

  9. Charli Says:


    I’m buying some Cloud 9 yarn off the internet, so I was wondering, if by any chance, you knew which number your Cloud 9 yarn was. I really like it, so I was hoping to get some for myself.


  10. joh Says:

    hi! that is such a beautiful pattern! where is it published?

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