Comments on: Community Matters http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/ knitting and everything else Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:29:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Shell http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5746 Shell Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:01:30 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5746 I'm glad that you and Sandra had a great time and it was a time of rightness for you. Just know that you are loved for who you are. Also was I the only person NOT surprised when Ellen came out? I mean you could pretty much figure it out by just watching her show. It was such a brave act and being true to herself has paid off more than hiding I think. I’m glad that you and Sandra had a great time and it was a time of rightness for you. Just know that you are loved for who you are.

Also was I the only person NOT surprised when Ellen came out? I mean you could pretty much figure it out by just watching her show. It was such a brave act and being true to herself has paid off more than hiding I think.

]]> By: Tanya http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5744 Tanya Sun, 22 Nov 2009 12:12:10 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5744 My wife and I jumped the broom in Windsor. . .just over the border for us in Michigan. I so agree about community, and if you think the Olivia cruise was good, you should consider a week in the woods in August. This will be year 35 of the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival. It is renewing beyond belief, and not too far of a drive for you. Just sayin'. www.michfest.com My wife and I jumped the broom in Windsor. . .just over the border for us in Michigan. I so agree about community, and if you think the Olivia cruise was good, you should consider a week in the woods in August. This will be year 35 of the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. It is renewing beyond belief, and not too far of a drive for you. Just sayin’. http://www.michfest.com

]]> By: annie http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5743 annie Sat, 21 Nov 2009 15:08:09 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5743 you are absolutely right.. that neighbor was insane. completely and utterly crazy. and sandra's old job was some kind of hell, gay or not gay. she was lucky to get out of there. you are absolutely right.. that neighbor was insane. completely and utterly crazy. and sandra’s old job was some kind of hell, gay or not gay. she was lucky to get out of there.

]]> By: Amy http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5742 Amy Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:37:32 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5742 Oh yes, the shop was wonderful. The neighbor who threw beer bottles in our yard and stole Cooper was not. Sandra getting let go from a job for dating me was not. There was just a lot. Oh yes, the shop was wonderful. The neighbor who threw beer bottles in our yard and stole Cooper was not. Sandra getting let go from a job for dating me was not. There was just a lot.

]]> By: annie http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5741 annie Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:13:09 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5741 'Although we ran into so much homophobia (and ignorance) in Calgary' is that so? i was there in that store day after day, and what i saw directed your way was love and acceptance. i'm really glad you're in a better place now; you deserve that. ‘Although we ran into so much homophobia (and ignorance) in Calgary’

is that so? i was there in that store day after day, and what i saw directed your way was love and acceptance. i’m really glad you’re in a better place now; you deserve that.

]]> By: Judy G. http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5740 Judy G. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:49:32 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5740 Thoughtful post, as usual, Amy. It's not often that I get a burst of patriotism, but when it comes to same-sex marriage, I am proud to be Canadian. Thoughtful post, as usual, Amy. It’s not often that I get a burst of patriotism, but when it comes to same-sex marriage, I am proud to be Canadian.

]]> By: amy http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5739 amy Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:00:10 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5739 We ARE all unique, absolutely. I'm not just one word. I'm a whole book full of different nouns and adjectives, all of which could be used to show a subset of commonalities with other people. I think the choice we have to choose our own labels, if we want, is so powerful. We ARE all unique, absolutely. I’m not just one word. I’m a whole book full of different nouns and adjectives, all of which could be used to show a subset of commonalities with other people. I think the choice we have to choose our own labels, if we want, is so powerful.

]]> By: Jackie http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5738 Jackie Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:43:41 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5738 I don't believe in labelling anybody. We are all unique. And yes, wow haven't things come a long way in the last 10 years. I don’t believe in labelling anybody. We are all unique.
And yes, wow haven’t things come a long way in the last 10 years.

]]> By: booksNyarn http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5736 booksNyarn Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:03:19 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5736 Community is definitely important - very few people these days like to feel they are alone in the world, and even with a loving spouse and immediate family. It's the others you connect to on a day to day basis, whether personally or by observation, that can bring that common acceptance to Life. Like DataGoddess I am also bisexual, and just married the love of my life, who is male. He came out last year - so needless to say a lot of people have a hard time keeping up with us. :) But we are very fortunate to have friends and a church that accept us as we are. We feel fortunate to live in MA, where our gay and lesbian friends CAN marry and stand on equal ground with our straight friends. Because equal is where we should all be. Community is definitely important – very few people these days like to feel they are alone in the world, and even with a loving spouse and immediate family. It’s the others you connect to on a day to day basis, whether personally or by observation, that can bring that common acceptance to Life.

Like DataGoddess I am also bisexual, and just married the love of my life, who is male. He came out last year – so needless to say a lot of people have a hard time keeping up with us. :) But we are very fortunate to have friends and a church that accept us as we are. We feel fortunate to live in MA, where our gay and lesbian friends CAN marry and stand on equal ground with our straight friends. Because equal is where we should all be.

]]> By: Karen http://www.indigirl.com/blog/2009/11/community-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5734 Karen Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:24:08 +0000 http://www.indigirl.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-5734 I don't actually believe that human beings are either gay, straight, bi etc. I believe very strongly that we are all beings capable of love and that we all crave emotional, physical and sexual intimacy. And we all have our own sets of tastes and desires. I like to think that the first person who decided to name our desires and decide that some were more acceptable than others was a coward who probably didn't have the courage to deal with what was really on their mind (imagine the bully who calls a kid ugly when they really resent the fact that the kid did better on a test than they did). That said, I believe that community is profound. For me, the communities that I nurture in my life have nothing to do with my essence as a person, they have to do with my experience and my hopes and dreams for my essence. My knitting community cradles my creativity, my political community is a safe haven for my beliefs, etc. Okay, my last rant. I live in NY where you would think marriage equity would be a no brainer. However, it's still a ridiculous mess. And I refuse to accept straight people who have "commitment ceremonies" rather than marriages. CCs have been offered as a lesser choice and when we accept the lesser choice for all, we reduce the opportunities for all of us to make what is considered the higher choice. Once everyone can get married, then everyone can have commitment ceremonies. You can't raise standards when people accept lowered standards. P.S. I will always support a commitment ceremony for my same sex friends because it is the highest standard available for them right now and I want to celebrate their love. Thanks for the great post and for being a part of my knitting and blog community. I don’t actually believe that human beings are either gay, straight, bi etc. I believe very strongly that we are all beings capable of love and that we all crave emotional, physical and sexual intimacy. And we all have our own sets of tastes and desires. I like to think that the first person who decided to name our desires and decide that some were more acceptable than others was a coward who probably didn’t have the courage to deal with what was really on their mind (imagine the bully who calls a kid ugly when they really resent the fact that the kid did better on a test than they did).
That said, I believe that community is profound. For me, the communities that I nurture in my life have nothing to do with my essence as a person, they have to do with my experience and my hopes and dreams for my essence. My knitting community cradles my creativity, my political community is a safe haven for my beliefs, etc.
Okay, my last rant. I live in NY where you would think marriage equity would be a no brainer. However, it’s still a ridiculous mess. And I refuse to accept straight people who have “commitment ceremonies” rather than marriages. CCs have been offered as a lesser choice and when we accept the lesser choice for all, we reduce the opportunities for all of us to make what is considered the higher choice. Once everyone can get married, then everyone can have commitment ceremonies. You can’t raise standards when people accept lowered standards. P.S. I will always support a commitment ceremony for my same sex friends because it is the highest standard available for them right now and I want to celebrate their love. Thanks for the great post and for being a part of my knitting and blog community.

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